Connect. Restore. Empower
Dr. Dallas Humble is the founder of The Reshape Institute, providing guidance for those seeking restoration after life's inevitable set backs. His experiences, love for God, family, heartfelt belief in second chances and desire to see others living life according to their God-given purpose, birthed the creation of this online educational organization.
We appeal to those that:
- Believe in second chances
- Want to reshape their lives
- Are seeking wellness, prevention and a healthier, more active lifestyle
- Seek hope when hope seems like a fantasy
- Feel like the world is caving in with nowhere to turn
- Have made mistakes and think the best part of their life is behind them
- Want a loving relationship with the God of the universe and aren’t sure how to make that happen
- Enjoy reading inspirational material
If this sounds like something you may want, I encourage you to read more…
Sad Songs, Stripped Lives and Successful Endings
Imagine yourself standing on the home plate of a softball field. The pitcher is winding up to throw the ball and, suddenly, he throws the ball, only this time directly at your head! You duck and fortunately, you avoid getting hit. Now, imagine you are in the major league. The pitcher gets prepared, begins his initial pitch and, an almost 100 MPH curveball is headed directly for your head. A bean ball as they call it. Only this time, you don't see it in time to duck and you get hit...hard, painfully hard. Knocked out hard.
Life is not fair. The sooner we understand that, the better we learn to cope with the surprises that come our way. Unfortunately, bad things do happen to good people. We see things coming our way early in life, minor things, and are able to maneuver our way around them. Then, life throws us a bean ball. Without notice in one day the life we once knew changes. We didn't see the bean ball coming and, now we are injured, brought to our knees, walking around wounded, limping and wondering what just happened.
Walking with a "limp" comes after being stripped and broken from all the previous things in life that seemed to matter…but don't. When you get hit, without a chance to duck and deflect, you become vulnerable. Most people equate vulnerability with weakness; however, nothing could be further from the truth. Vulnerability is realness, exposure, being naked before the world. I don't like naked, and you probably don't either but, when we understand that vulnerability can be defined as courage and truth, it changes our view. During my travels, I have seen some truly good communicators. They laid it all out there in a vulnerable and naked way. Ask yourself the following question, "Do you think that it takes courage to tell the truth regardless of the ramifications?" Is that weakness? Obviously not. I pray every day for humbleness (no pun intended) and the courage to speak truth without any spiritual or emotional clothing. Complete nakedness.
I was brought up in a God-fearing, middle class, loving family and didn't want for much of anything. My parents were the epitome of love, and cared for my brothers, my sister and me with all of their ability. My childhood holds fond memories for which I am extremely grateful. The first real tragedy I remember in my life was the loss of my brother from cancer at the age of 30. The pain was immense and the suffering my parents went through was heartfelt to many. Throughout my adult life, I have had my share of ups and downs, experiencing both abundance and lack. Deaths of loved ones, partnership break ups, "financial advisors" that took all my earnings and placed them in worthless investments, a devastating divorce that left me with my 3 children to raise as a single dad, an unexpected house fire that took everything we owned and, if that wasn't enough, a federal indictment for an unintentional act that resulted in life changing ramifications. (READ MY STORY) So, when I tell you "I understand" what it is like to be hit by a bean ball, I truly do.
Being stripped and broken creates a feeling of nakedness. This can lead to positive or negative endings, depending on how you handle the situation. For me, it was a time to reaffirm my purpose, reflect on my past, and reshape my life for the future. According to Brene Brown, Ph.D. and author of the book, "Daring Greatly", vulnerability is defined as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. She says quite convincingly, "Vulnerability is not weakness; in fact, it is just the opposite. Being vulnerable isn't good or bad but rather the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable and to believe that vulnerability is a weakness is to believe feelings are as well."
Dr. Brown lists 4 myths associated with vulnerability that speak to all of us:
Myth #1: Vulnerability is weakness
Myth #2: I don't do vulnerability
Myth #3: Vulnerability is letting it all hang out
Myth #4: We can go it alone
But there are two other emotions altogether different that affect us when something happens that threatens our reputation and perceived integrity. These emotions are embarrassment and shame. My test in life created a lot of both. I was embarrassed and shameful. Even worse, for a time, I lost hope.
Years ago there was a movie in which a man was wrongly accused, found guilty and placed in a maximum-security prison. He later realized that the administration was corrupt, and he wasn't going to get out, at least not in his lifetime. So, he decided to escape. After much planning and preparation, it was time for the big move. The way out was through a tunnel that was actually the prison's sewage system, comprised of disgusting human waste with rodents infiltrating the escape path. Seeking freedom at all expense, he crawled through the tunnel, trying to hold his breath as long as possible and vomiting multiple times along the way. And, it was dark. The kind of dark that you can't see you hand in front of your face. Once in, there was no turning back, for if he did, he would surely die at the hands of the prison guards. After traveling through the tunnel for a period of time, his commitment to going all the way was non-negotiable. He continued smelling the filth all the way until finally he saw light. He crawled until he reached the end of that tunnel where he could see the light and fell out into a river of running water, washing off and finally finding the freedom he was pursuing.
Does that story sound familiar to you? We want to pursue something meaningful in life, but we are afraid. Finally, we make a decision that allows no option except to jump in feet first only it isn't what we expected. Things are different, not going our way, but we are so far in we can't turn back. Friends, this is where the rubber meets the road. We either continue forward or stop dead in our tracks and stagnate in the filth and disgust of self-pity from quitting our journey.
Bringing out the David within you
Have you ever failed at something because you didn't plan properly? If we want to achieve victory in the things we pursue, we must be willing to plan. Looking in the rear view mirror with regret doesn't change where we are today. It's what we do from this point forward that counts. Seeing a matter through to completion may not be enough either. We must also demonstrate wisdom in the path we take, the challenges that lie ahead and the potential results that follow.
David, one of my favorite characters in the Bible, is described as a "man after God's own heart," which is not a bad way to be identified. David was a small shepherd boy when he faced Goliath, the giant of all giants. You know the story; David had no fear, no reservation and no intention of retreating.
When David confronted the Philistine Giant, he knew he was going to win. He was keenly aware of the conflict and the fact that the reputation of His God was at stake. Failure at this important juncture would have shown the world that Israel's God wasn't all that powerful…and his faith was meaningless.
If your pursuits continue to fall short, ask yourself these important questions: "Am I looking at the whole picture or have I lost perspective?" Is my vision too limited? Do I realize that I have a "David" within me?” Michelangelo once saw a rock that others had seen for years only he could see something much larger on the inside. He saw the statue of David.
Setbacks can become set ups for comebacks when we: 1) Accept responsibility for our actions 2) Remain humble 3) Rely on our faith and 4) Believe in ourselves. As an author of faith and personal achievement, I have certainly experienced many setbacks in my life. As a matter of fact, if setbacks were to define an individual, I would be a living example.
No matter where you are, what you are going through or where you have been, you can experience true joy in your life. I am a firm believer in the power of the human spirit, the power of restoration and second chances in life. Regardless of the where life leads one thing remains constant, and that is our need to be loved and accepted. Doctrine and religion can't save us; the world has enough laws and rules. Religion has "answers" for every problem with few, if any, lasting results. We can search and search for that acceptance, but we will find it nowhere until we realize just how much each of us is cherished by a loving God. Only His grace covers us and is sufficient no matter what circumstances we are facing.
Remaining humble in life is difficult not because we are special in some way. The difficulty comes in the fact that humility is the direct opposite of arrogance, and this world does its best to convince us that we don't need anyone…that we can go at it all alone.
The truth is, none of us can go at it alone. Show me a turtle on a fence post, and you can rest assured that someone put it there. No matter who we are or how great our accomplishments may be, we are simply a piece of a much bigger and more meaningful puzzle.
Below is our mission statement and purpose. I hope you will join me as we explore the human spirit and work together to inspire one another along the path of life.
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To inspire others to find meaning, pursue purpose, and experience complete restoration in their lives.
OUR PURPOSE & VISION
Pursue an unwavering faith in God resulting in a life of meaning, purpose, contagious joy, and everlasting peace.
Promote relationship over religion, grace over law, and clarity over confusion.
Promise to treat others as we would like to be treated and love our neighbors as ourselves.
Provide education to help others achieve optimum health through proven wellness & preventative practices, promoting a better lifestyle, increased function, and a higher quality of life.
Persevere by believing in second chances, the power of restoration, and the ability to overcome adversity and finish strong.
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